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Home › Forums › Apology and Forgiveness › Why apology is at the heart of relationship repair?
Hello everyone!
Being told that they need to “say sorry” can really make a person feel like they’re in first grade again. But many people seeking relationship repair need to relearn that, going back to the basics, like how to apologize, is absolutely necessary.
As we grow into adults, we want even more to maintain our image of integrity, responsibility and strength. Having to admit a mistake when children somehow made us think we were losing face, and it would shame us!
The truth is that now learning to own our own mistakes and giving up both denial (“I didn’t do it”) or projection (“Others pushed me to do it”) is at the core of behaving with integrity.
Growing up into adults, it’s the opposite as we did when children; deny and cover up our mistakes; we need to accept that everybody makes them, and that you can’t ignore your partner’s feelings…. Can you see that you lose integrity by refusing to admit your responsibility in hurting someone? This is what our text for this week, called “The Art of Saying I’m sorry” involves.
If you haven’t done so yet, please read this week’s text. Then, take a look at the case study to be posted here, to see some principles in motion.
Who do you owe an apology to? Who owes you one? Share your ideas and stories with us here.
Nora