How Much Love Do You Want This Valentine’s Day?

Posted on January 30, 2012 by norafem

Now that Valentine’s Day is approaching, what are your heart’s desires? More peace at home? A better relationship with your spouse? What about just more love? Have you thought about how you’re going to achieve those desires?

You know what you want most from your life this year, so tell us… We can help you make it! National Relationships Repair Month continues with our new “Valentine’s Dream” survey, created just for you, so that you can tell us more about your deepest relationship cravings.

You are the person who knows the most about your needs, so tell us what you’d like to see happen in your life. We would love to know your desires… Can you please fill out this survey? This way,  a conversation can be started about how to make you happier (and you might just get to know yourself better, as well!)

You have the power to create a happier, less complicated life – the journey begins and ends with you. That means your opinion is vital here. Can you help us help you? There is a bag of goodies waiting for you, to make you happier!

By filling out the survey, you’ll also get a free Personal Relationship Rescue Coaching Session. It’s a one-on-one call that can rescue your relationship!

 

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Planning your New Self, in 2012? here is how!

Posted on January 3, 2012 by norafem

After all the conversation about improving your relationships, probably you have a better idea of what works in your marriage…and what doesn’t. Using the starting of the 2012 New Year as a marker, we offer here a plan to strengthen those areas which you found wanting.  In the format of a letter to yourself!

INSTRUCTIONS:

The purpose of this exercise is to have a letter to yourself that you will open a year from now. You will detail your present challenges, which could be aspects impacting your relationship like:

  • Your low Self-esteem level;
  • Having Anger issues and acting them out;
  • Poor Communication skills;
  • Emotional re-connection missing because refusal to apologyze.
  • Other

You will then tell your future self how you plan to improve these aspects of yourself.

You can ask us for help on crafting any part of this letter, but you must make an honest effort to identify your own challenges, document your struggles, display your resolve to change, and stick to your plans and resolutions.

Setting them down on paper will make them real and unavoidable.

No more procrastination! Repair work starts today!

Print the next page so that you can fill it out, save it and open it one year from now.

Binding Contract to My Self

I, ________________________________, pledge in the next year of 2012 to implement the following plans for actively repairing my relationships.

Issues I pledge to resolve:

  1. _________________
  2. _________________
  3. _________________


Resolutions for change to be made during year 2012, which I pledge to implement:

I will do the following steps:

  1. ___________________
  2. ___________________
  3. ___________________



SIGNATURE: ____________Questions to my future self:How do you feel now that you have done these changes?
What does your relationship feels like?
Now, how much more happiness can you wish for?NOW, POST THIS LETTER AThttp://www.rememberthemilk.com/

AND MAKE THE SYSTEM SEND IT AS A LETTER TO YOU ON….January 1st, 2013.

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Fourth Week: Apology and Forgiveness

Posted on December 26, 2011 by norafem

How often do you tell your spouse “I’m sorry…”?

And how many times it is followed by the silly phrase “…that you feel I did something wrong”?

The value of a good apology, and how to give one, is what we are discussing here in Week Four: APOLOGY and FORGIVENESS 

Today we uploaded the text called: “THE ART of SAYING I’M SORRY”. Apologizing is never fun – somehow in our culture we grow up thinking that apologizing means admitting weakness, or giving the “enemy” “ammunition.”

We need to throw down that combative mindset right away! Apology must be seen as a form of taking responsibility, not losing out, in order to repair a relationship.

Each us agrees to be adults and support the other when we get married. When we don’t hold up our side of the bargain, someone gets hurt. And hurting each other – whether we mean to do it or not – is something we have to make amends for.

The when, how and why of apologizing can be discussed here, on our forum.

We’ll be looking at a case study that explores responsibility and taking recuperative action. Don’t miss it!

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Why 52% Of People Feel That They Don’t Get The Credit They Deserve?

Posted on December 26, 2011 by Neil Warner

This graphic is part of the survey about the human needs of our participants,  where 87 participants answered 11 questions about their own needs.

What is surprising of these results, is that more than half of the respondents clearly feel that they don’t receive the recognition they deserve. And this is without counting those that already have given up hope that things can get better.

So, as we are burning the last days of 2011, I want to turn the tables and ask you to think about:

Why is it that people have a hard time being appreciative of the efforts of other people?

What are the consequences of the lack of appreciation in their lives? and in yours?

but also:

Can you guess what will be your partner’s answer to this exact same question?

Enough thinking for a single post…

It’s my turn to say thank you:

Thank you for sharing your experiences;

Thank you for your comments and feedback;

Thank you for reading and commenting our thought pieces.

Best wishes for the holidays,
Neil

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Listening: The Study Case Is Waiting For Your Input

Posted on December 22, 2011 by Neil Warner

This week is all about listening, so today we have posted one case for you to think, and apply what is discussed on this weeks text,  “How to Listen to Each Other” .

This case is about Fears, and Opening Up..

Colorful Mountain Road
Creative Commons License photo credit: Travelling_Artist

To view the case and join us for the discussion, please visit the Forum

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